Attitude Isn’t Everything

Attitude is everything. How many times have we heard this cliché, or read an article on why attitude is essential and how to “change” it? Does it mean we just need to be “happy” all the time and fake it when we aren’t? Why is it toted as such a simple thing, when it’s not? What does it even mean?

Attitude is a very important subject to me, as I have been told that I always seem happy, smiley, bubbly, and outgoing. The problem with this belief is the “always” part. It’s strange to me when I get asked “are you ever upset?” or “I can’t imagine you mad.” I’m a human! Of course, I get upset, angry, frustrated, stressed—all of the above. People who know me better see the variations of me. But through it all, I am generally a joyful person, and I have been told I have a great attitude (cue the overly-bright smile).

The problem is that I believe having a good “attitude” gets all tangled up with being “outgoing and bubbly.” This is an issue because being upbeat is part of my wiring, my personality. There are so many different personality types out there, ranging on a gradient from highly introverted to extremely extroverted. If you are a quieter person you may be perceived as “having a bad attitude” when really you are deliberative and take time to make decisions and speak up. If you are more outgoing, you can be perceived as “overly emotional” at times, and this can also seem like a bad attitude.

We believe a good attitude transcends personality. So as an employer, employee, owner, or anything in-between, let’s consider the top five things that we think make a great attitude.

1. Adapting to changing situations quickly and efficiently.

This includes having a good attitude while you change directions! If change is as common as the clichés suggest, we might as well use every moment to learn how to pivot faster and have a good time doing it. Something that might help with this is to be realistic about the good AND the bad things that a change will bring. Then you can make a list of ideas to counter the bad effects, and find joy in the benefits the change will bring.

2. A true willingness to work in a team, without seeking personal glory.

This one is hard for me, and I would say anyone who cared about getting good grades in school has a hard time with this as well. Even during group projects, we were scored individually. I worked hard! I want the recognition, the glory. But there isn’t a place for that in a well-functioning team. Striking a balance between confidence and humbleness is a struggle, but the results are worth it.

3. Being authentically ourselves, through the good days and bad.

Being authentic with those that we work with means being honest with where you are at in the moment. Again, it is a balance. It means that when you are having a really hard day, you don’t ignore it and try to just keep moving. You stop, take a moment, and communicate with those you work with so everyone is on the same page.

4. Honesty, even when it is hardest.

This is obvious but also difficult! When you do make a mistake, or something goes wrong, you must trust your team enough to be honest—always. Most of the sitcoms that we love are built around hiding mistakes from friends, family, or coworkers, but the plot inevitably falls apart. It’s entertaining when it’s happening to actors, but the damage these kinds of actions cause in real life can be detrimental.

5. Forgiving others, forgiving ourselves.

When athletes make a mistake, they must move forward and focus on the next play. If they get self-centered and focused on their mistake, they will not only play badly, but they will also bring down the rest of the team. We must strike a balance between forgiving others when they make a mistake, but also holding each other to a high standard. This is also a balance that is hard to strike, but if forgiveness is at the center, everyone can move forward.

The truth is, we are human. We make mistakes, we get emotional, we have bad days. But we are also unique, important, and valuable. Don’t strive to have a “good attitude” if what that means is faking a smile. We learn and grow through our actions. Most of all, don’t be discouraged if this list seems hard to accomplish. We are all on a journey! Forgive yourself—the next play is yours.

Why focusing on your passions won’t get you the dream job

Our world is expanding all the time with new job roles that have never existed before. Technology is changing rapidly, and we are more connected globally than ever in history. This is exciting, but how can we successfully navigate such a landscape and find our place in it? How can we find the perfect job role when that job might not even exist right now?

I graduated with an BS in Art and Business Management. You might be thinking that I wanted to have a business degree so I would know how to sell my art, but you would be wrong. I do not have the personality to sit in a studio and create art. That is a much harder job than our society would lead us to believe. I graduated without having a clear vision of how these passions would come together for me. In the few years since graduating I’ve held positions in project management, HR, video, recruiting, teaching, and now in PR and Marketing.

It’s been a long journey in a few short years to where I am now, and I don’t think I’m alone in the uncertain path after graduation. If you found your dream job right after graduation, then congratulations! You got lucky or did it right. But, for the rest of us, it can be a messy few years (or decades). I would like to suggest that the problem lies with a misplaced focus on passion.

We are constantly asking and re-evaluating the question, “what am I PASSIONATE about?”. There are hundreds of articles, books, Pinterest boards, and inspirational speakers that call for us to start with our passions. And here’s the thing. I get this. I even think it’s important. However, I think it’s misleading, and here’s why.

What am I passionate about? Art, painting, dogs, travel, business, making new connections, spending time with family and friends. I spent a lot of time writing and re-writing lists, wracking my brain to find the job that my passions lead me to. These lists didn’t help me find a company to work for. It didn’t even help me single in on a solid career direction. (Dog washer? Gallery director?) I was stumped after those two options. I knew there were so many ways to combine these passions, but how do I find them? Where do I begin?

What if, for a moment, we started with what kind of company we want to work for instead of what kind of job we want? What qualities would a company have that would make me want to work for them?

I want a company that has a long-term mindset with ambitious goals, flexibility, true transparency, the opportunity to travel, celebrations when we succeed, the ability to take calculated risks, trust, true connections with coworkers, ethical practices, charitable giving, opportunities to grow as an individual and as a company, good coffee AND tea, and ultimately, to be truly known and loved.

This thinking ignores the company product or service. Instead, it focuses on HOW they do what they do. It certainly doesn’t discount passion, it just incorporates passion into a wholistic view of the company. I want to be a part of a company where my passion is authentically recognized, valued, and shared. When you find a company that is truly a fit, the job role will fall into place around their needs and your talents.

So my suggestion to you, fellow young (or young at heart) persons searching for true joy at your job, is to make your own list. Your uncompromising list, of what KIND of team you want to be a part of, not the product they sell or the job they currently have open. If you focus on passion first, you might never find the kind of company you want to work for. I never would have seen myself working for a company that creates cables, wires and connectors. But here I am, so happy and thankful to be a part of this amazing team.

To break it down for you:
1. Do research on some companies that you are drawn to. What kinds of qualities do they have that you admire?
2. Create a list of company qualities you are looking for.
3. Search for companies in your area (you can find companies in your area by searching in your zip code on LinkedIn).
4. Research the company’s social media platforms, online engagement, websites, and career pages to see if they live out the qualities on your list.
5. Send your resume with a cover letter to companies you are interested in. (Whether they have posted open jobs or not!).

Here’s the kicker: You have a lot of content to create a unique cover letter. You can share why you want to work for their company, and it will be genuine and sincere.

For my entrepreneur friends who are thinking right now “I’ve followed my passion right into a career of my own!” That is amazing and I am rooting for you! You are a leader that will CREATE the space and culture that others want to join. We need you. Keep it up!

If you are interested in learning more about the amazing company I work for, Tensility International Corporation, check out our career page. (http://careers.tensility.com/)

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